Did you know that you can have orgasms without genital stimulation or penetration?
Someone’s asked about the idea of tantric or slow sex.
This is actually sort of my main passion, but I never took it up seriously as a career and ended up specialising in treating LS instead because
1) I have the tools and training to deal with physical illnesses, and
2) working with people with LS gives me the opportunity to help with the same core issues that I would solve in the conscious sexuality field.
Without going into too much detail, I just want to give a quick overview of what ‚tantric sex‘ is about.
Now, it certainly won’t be for everyone. You need to feel the call to go deeper in your sexuality, and into who you are, essentially.
The basic premise is that you approach sensuality as a way of life rather than just a singular bedroom act. That means being sensual in yourself and feeling into your body more, being aware of what goes on within.
It allows you to have awesome nourishing orgasms *without* genital stimulation (or without touch for that matter. Caring touch is an essential human need though)
It is very healing. It can literally address trauma, and rewire the nervous system to heal physical and emotional issues.
It deepens intimacy and connection, with yourself, and with your partner.
If there is penetration, it is only done when the vagina opens and invites the object in (almost sucks it in), which pretty much goes against all the notions we see in our culture about how it’s done. This, I believe, plays a big role in why we see so many genital issues in women. The way it’s been done is simply not conducive to what female bodies really need to be healthy, on the contrary, it’s causing damage, if not physical, then certainly emotional, whether we are conscious of it or not.
Deep relaxation is a must
Deep relaxation, and slow, or almost no movement are often part of it. Doesn’t that sound nice and nourishing? There’s various techniques and trainings available on how to work on that.
Little note of warning – it is known that if you come to your man with the suggestion that now you want to do ‘tantra’, most are not going to be on board. They have their own beliefs and conditionings on what they should know and how they should do things. There’s tips and tricks for that also, but, personally, I’d rather swap the man (or be single for that matter).
Some resources to start with
*Eyal Matshliah’s free 70 page ‘Orgasm Unleashed’ book sample. Great for learning the basics about female sensuality and offers a simple practice for unlocking your whole body orgasmic potential. You can download bellow
https://www.intimatepower.com/orgasmunleashed/
*Tantric orgasm for women by Diana Richardson – my favorite book on this topic: a comprehensive, simple to follow guide to healthy sexuality with many partner exercises
Feel free to ask me any questions about this and if you’re looking for support around reforming your sexuality and relationship to accomodate your LS needs click here to learn how you can work with me.